WHY INTELLIGENT PEOPLE STRUGGLE WITH LOVE
Humans are hardwired to connect and form relationships. However, establishing and maintaining relationships is not easy.
But there are many people out there who seem to struggle with love. For the highly intelligent, it can be even more difficult.
It might be easy for them to find solutions and figure everything out, but when it comes to love, many intelligent people often fall short.
To them, love can seem nonsensical or unreasonable, they have a hard time rapping their heads around it.
Let’s find out why intelligent people often struggle with love.
1. They Overthink Everything
Intelligent people often tend to be detail-oriented. They often need to check out and analyze all the characteristics of someone before starting a relationship with them.
One funny thing is that they can play out every possible scenario in the minds, analyzing every possible way the relationship could go wrong.
Oftentimes, because there are many more ways for it to go wrong, they conclude that since the bad outweighs the good, there’s no point in starting the relationship at all.
2. They are Comfortable Being Independent
Intelligent people are generally all comfortable all by themselves, in fact, the more intelligent a person is, the more they value themselves.
They are totally secure and at peace with who they are and what they have. Such that they are often careful to avoid anything that can cripple their independence, even relationships.
Some believe that relationships will weigh on their independence, so they try to avoid it or at least stay single for just a while longer.
But the truth is when you are in a mature relationship with someone that truly loves you, they won’t try to control you, nor will they interfere with your independence.
3. They Trust their Minds more than their Hearts
Because of their analytical minds, smart people like to make decisions based on facts and figures. They make decisions after considering all the logical options.
As a result, they often stick to what their brain tells them, irrespective of what they feel in their hearts.
To a certain point, this way of thinking could be beneficial, but there are times they are better off listening to their hearts, especially when it comes to love.
4. They are more Suspicious
Being very careful about selecting partners is a wise decision. But being too careful can be a problem. Intelligent people are easily suspicious, especially when trying to choose a partner.
They can think of a lot of bad things, all because they don’t want to be deceived to selecting the wrong person.
Sometimes, this might work for them. But they can be alone for long periods of time.
5. They Prioritize their Goals in Life
You’ve probably met someone who has their life figured out, down to their dreams and goals all laid out. Intelligent people tend to be like this.
They have dreams and plans they set timelines to, and they often drop everything to focus on them.
They are so focused on their dreams and goals, they have so little time for relationships.
Even when they are in a relationship, smart people put a great deal of focus on working towards their dreams, all the while, their partners complain of being ignored.
6. Beauty doesn’t Come First
Another reason smart people struggle with love is that they spend so much time trying to figure out if someone is the right kind of partner.
They place more value on intelligence than appearance, they would rather wait to find out the person’s true personality before making up their minds.
However, if you delay in making this choice, you risk ending up alone, as most people won’t wait too long.
7. They have High Standards
Intelligent people have high standards regarding things and the people surrounding them.
They want their lives to be perfect and they don’t want to lower their standards to whatever anyone around them might be doing.
Smart people have a certain idea of whatever kind of person they want to be with, and they won’t waste time on someone who they don’t believe is a good match.
Finding your exact specifications often processed very difficult and if you have very high unyielding standards, you might have to wait for a very long time.
8. They can be Guarded
Intelligent people might have a hard time opening up to others, and they can seem to have a wall around them. They have a hard time sharing their secrets with people because they rarely trust anyone.
They often reflect back on the past and think about situations they were hurt when they opened up to others.
As a result of this, they can seem cold and detached, but that’s just because they are protecting themselves from being hurt again.
9. They are Intimidating
People are often afraid of pursuing smart people because they often appear intimidating, they don’t want to be rejected, so, they don’t even bother.
Some think they can’t date very intelligent people because they aren’t in the same class.
But truly, as intimidating as they might appear, smart people are emotional beings too, they just hide their soft spots beneath a tough exterior, all they need is someone to be patient and understand them.
10. They don’t Like Restrictions
Intelligent people like to express themselves, they don’t like to be around people who box them in by restricting them from doing the things they love.
They really value being free to move around as they please, and do the things that bring them joy.
No matter who you are, or the extent of your relationship with them, once intelligent people begin to feel caged, they will leave for their freedom.
11. Partners can’t Keep Up
Being average or super intelligent isn’t really the problem, you just have to find someone who will be able to relate with you on the same level.
Intellectual mismatch can be a bit of a problem in a relationship.
When you and your partner can’t hold a conversation or relate with each other’s habits and activities, then the relationship struggles.
12. They can get Bored of their Partner
Intelligent people find new things fascinating, but because of their love for learning, their fascination only lasts until they figure something out, after understanding it, they get bored and move on to other intriguing things.
However, this can be a problem in a relationship, when they fall in love, the emotions attached and other involvements intrigue them for a while.
But after figuring out their partner, they may lose interest and start to look elsewhere for stimulation.
13. They are Single by Choice
The final reason why intelligent people are often single, is because they choose to be. Some of them may consider love and courtship as old and outdated practice and they don’t just understand all the hype around them.
Like all their decisions, they weigh all their options and decide they are just better on their own.
This does not imply that you have to be dumb to fall in love.
The truth is many people have a hard time falling in love. But according to studies, the more intelligent you are, the harder for you to find love.